Shawn, when you're head over heels, you are an Idealistic Romantic
Approximately 28% of people share this type with you.
"Happily ever after," may be the three words that you enjoy dreaming about, — next to "I love you," of course. As an idealistic romantic, you likely have your share of idealistic dreams for the future, especially when it comes to imaging your perfect partner. As a skilled socializer who knows how to make the people in your life feel special, you're apt to have your eye out for someone who can do the same.
The rituals of romance are important to you. And for that reason, if the object of your affections doesn't appreciate the value of things like red roses and candlelight dinners, they might not hold your interest for very long. However, you're not just looking for a thoughtful date who appreciates romantic gestures. You seek a deeper emotional bond.Once you find that special love, you'll probably be the first to declare that you're head-over-heels rather than hold back you're emotions. After all, what good is being in love if you can't share it?
Now that you have general sketch of your love personality, you should understand the 7 core personality dimensions that determined it.
Seven Dimensions of Your Love Personality
Your love personality type is a composite of seven personality dimensions. Together they make up your love personality type, and individually they offer insight about particular aspects of how you look at the world and those around you.
Be aware that some people with the same personality type will have different dimension scores. Only by looking at both someone's type and dimensions can you get the full picture of who they are.
Here are your scores relative to others who took the test:
Dimension #1: Pampered versus Rugged
Those who scored as more rugged are outdoorsy types who generally enjoy being out in nature. They're also individuals who are willing to take risks and get a little dirty in order to have some fun. For highly rugged people, the world is their playground as well as their sanctuary.
Individuals who are more pampered include people who appreciate the many creature comforts associated with civilization. Pampered types typically prefer that their recreation be of the indoor variety.
Your results show that compared to other people who took the test, you fall on the more rugged side of the line. This suggests that you aren't afraid to get down and dirty when the time is right. You appear to be comfortable in natural settings and don't seem to mind the unpredictable quality inherent in outdoor activities. In fact, you likely appreciate being out in nature because of the many surprises it offers. This comfort with your surroundings likely carries over to other aspects of your life as well. If so, the result is a confidence that can be very calming to others. In love, it will be important to find a partner who also has a passion for nature. If not on the same level as you, at least enough so you can share the kinds of experiences that you value.
Dimension #2: Down-to-earth versus Dreamy
Individuals high on the dreamy scale include those people who would choose the bubbles of champagne over a glass of wine simply because it seemed a more romantic gesture. Highly dreamy people tend to see the magic in life. They may also actively seek out ways to make their love relationships special so that each day becomes an occasion.
People who are more down-to earth prefer life's everyday moments to grand gestures that seem over-the-top. They are realists who aren't easily swayed by styling or symbolism. For the most part, down-to-earth people would rather avoid glossy exteriors to get closer to what's on the inside. This tendency typically holds true across the board — in their friendships, in professional life, and in love.
Compared with others, your score weighed more heavily on the dreamy end of the scale. This result indicates that you have a more idealized way of seeing life than many people do. At times, your talent for imbuing the things around you with fantasy and romance gives you an air of elegance and wonder that others can be drawn to. In love, you know how to lavish special attention on the object of your affection and appreciate others who can reciprocate. Typically, romantic gestures aren't lost on you. On the contrary, you're usually one of those people who can really appreciate the magic of a well-timed kiss or a moonlight stroll. Dreamy types like you can be experts when it comes to courting. Just make sure that once you've found that special relationship you don't fall into the trap of thinking it's going to be just like it is in the movies. Once the two of you have walked off into the sunset, making your love last will still take some work. However, with your talent for keeping romance in bloom, you appear to be the perfect person for the job.
Dimension #3: Humble versus Self-possessed
People who score highly on being self-possessed are generally confident types who believe strongly in their abilities. This feeling may translate into a sense of pride in their level of physical fitness, a sense of assurance about their intellectual abilities, or a high regard for their sexual prowess. Highly self-possessed people often have a charisma and energy that makes them the center of attention.
Individuals who score more highly on the humble end of the scale are typically grounded people who would usually prefer to go unnoticed rather than make a big fuss. So instead of trumpeting their achievements to others, humble types will often opt to celebrate their successes in private. People who are highly humble also tend to be humanists who see others as equals, rather than feeling superior to anyone.
Compared with others, you scored on the more confident end of the continuum. This means that you possess a confidence that can energize your life so that each day becomes an adventure. When you see a new challenge, you're the kind of person who's likely to go after it with gusto, knowing that you have what it takes to make good things happen. This faith in your abilities can make you more willing to take risks than other people are. This trait can bode well for you in love. Feeling like hot stuff can give you the courage you need to approach an attractive person you'd like to meet, rather than letting the opportunity pass you by. You're also likely to keep yourself fairly socially active because you are usually comfortable interacting with others. In addition, once you're in a relationship, your self-assurance can help you ride out any rough spots and maintain your self-esteem if things ever get difficult. Just remember at those times when you're giving yourself a pat on the back that other people could use the same type of appreciation and encouragement. By believing in others like you believe in yourself, everyone around you is sure to win.
Dimension #4: Emotional versus Rational
Those who scored high on the rational scale are people who can usually take a step back during a heated situation in order to think out how best to respond. When provoked, their level-headedness makes them more likely to step back from an argument rather than fan the flames. Rational types are also typically strong thinkers who enjoy working through challenging problems to find a solution.
Those who scored more highly on the emotional scale tend to respond to intense situations by expressing their feelings as they have them. In this way, emotional people can sometimes come across as being either intense or impulsive. On the positive side, people who are highly emotional tend to be more direct than their rational counterparts and can be good about confronting issues in order to clear the air.
Compared with others, your results indicate that you're more rational than many people who took the test. This means that you're someone who is quite capable when it comes to logical reasoning. In fact, it's likely that you apply this valuable ability in a variety of situations, both personal and professional. Being rational and even-tempered can indeed serve you well, particularly during long-term relationships; almost no couple experiences constant bliss. At times when the road gets rocky, your deliberate way of processing difficult emotions can help you and your partner create more focus and direction in your relationship. It will also keep shouting matches to a minimum.
Being high on the rational scale means that you have a talent for observing what's happening in your own life. By being witness to events and your reactions to them, you can make more conscious choices for yourself. Not everyone has this ability. On the contrary, many people let their emotions pull them off-center and miss great opportunities. So be happy you have a good head on your shoulders. Being the voice of reason can be an attractive quality. It can also make you more compatible with the many people who'll come into your life.
Dimension #5: Independent versus Connected
People who are highly connected tend to make their relationships with others a priority. They keep in close touch with family and friends when they can and are usually softhearted, empathic people.
Highly independent people tend to be less open with those around them than their connected counterparts. They typically enjoy having time to themselves. Independent types are apt to search for meaning in ideas, things, or particular experiences more often than in their relationships. As a result, they can be at their best whether they're in a relationship or flying solo.
Compared with the other people who took this test, your score weighed more heavily on the connected end of the scale. This means that when a friend or a family member is in need, you're probably front and center doing whatever you can to help. This goes double when you're in a relationship. As a result, any person lucky enough to earn your love will likely find that they are showered with your attention and care. You seem to value the special bond that can be created when two people become involved and you'll likely go to great lengths to preserve it.
Being connected creates a kind of warmth that naturally emanates from you. This trait may originate from a deep understanding of human nature or an appreciation of people's vulnerabilities. Others are apt to spot this caring nature and be drawn to you because of it.
Dimension #6: Easygoing versus Particular
Highly particular people tend to strive for perfection in whatever they do. They also tend to have refined, and at times expensive, tastes. Appearance can be important to particular types, so taking care of themselves is often a high priority.
Easygoing people, on the other hand, don't tend to place a lot of importance on appearances. "Keeping up with the Joneses," whether in beauty, fashion, or possessions, isn't typically a top priority for easygoing types. They tend to be more impressed by things that have little to do with life's trappings.
In your case, you scored on the more easy-going end of the continuum compared with others who took the test. This indicates that you generally aren't too worried about having a place for everything and everything in its place. On the contrary, most times you tend to think it's more important to just be who you are and take life as it comes. So if your slacks aren't pressed or you're having a bad hair day, it's not likely to throw you for a loop. Instead, you're one of those people who seems to know that there are more important things than your appearance. You're also not the type to be awed by power or celebrity. In fact, if you saw your favorite actor in the supermarket, you'd probably simply smile and say hello rather than clamoring for an autograph. The people in your life likely see this laid back nature and appreciate that you're willing to take them as they are. The ease you often possess can be an attractive force; it makes have a you calming presence to those you are near.
Dimension #7: Modern versus Traditional
People who are more traditional tend to carry those feelings over into their search for love. For example, traditional types tend to believe that when a man and a woman go on a date, the man should pay. They're also likely to feel that red roses are the perfect gift for a first date and that idealistic weddings are the only way to go. For someone who is traditional, tried-and-true rituals are important to uphold.
People who are more modern are likely to hold a contrary opinion. For one, they'll often feel that people on a date should split the bill. They may also think that a Vegas wedding is just as good as a church service. It all depends on the people involved and what feels special to them. In addition, modern types tend to believe in equality in relationships and seek true respect from their significant others.
Your score on the Love Test shows that you're less traditional than many other people who took it. This means that when it comes to love, you're more likely to go with what you feel in a given situation, rather than follow an established tradition. This is especially true in the beginning of a relationship. So in the early days of love, you're as apt to hold the door for your date as they are to hold it for you. After all, you probably figure that common courtesy is a valuable trait in a man or a woman. It's not gender-specific. Conforming to idealistic roles during courtship typically isn't your forte, so if your date expects you to act by these standards, you might find yourself losing interest. However, don't be surprised if when you know this person better you find yourself drifting into a more conventional pattern on your own. Sometimes it just happens. However, in your case, assuming such a role wouldn't be so much a personal judgment as it would be a preference. As long as you're living in accordance with your values, whether behavior is traditional or not doesn't really matter.
Who Are You Compatible With?
When it's all said and done, much of compatibility comes down to that X factor known as chemistry. However, by knowing the love personality types that are the closest fit with your own, you're much more likely to know a good thing when you see it. Also, understanding your compatible types can give you new insight to why certain people you meet just don't seem to match up. Realize that most relationship problems can be fixed — so you're far from doomed if your types aren't a perfect match. Instead, think of the information as a mechanism to learn more about yourself and your romantic life.
Although the old adage tells us that "opposites attract," generally, research indicates otherwise. In fact, studies show that opposites don't attract; similar people do. So the type that you're apt to be most compatible with is actually your own: the Idealistic Romantic. There are, of course, exceptions to this rule. However the dimensions measured in this test focus on attitudes and behaviors that, when matched between two people, increase probability of having a compatible relationship.
When looking for a match, the type that is the next most compatible to your own is Essential Companion.
If you're looking for a genuine, down-to-earth partner who knows how to treat others with kindness, you'd best look in the direction of an essential companion. They not only respect and value the people in their lives but also make their relationships a top priority. However, they're usually not the type to try to impress others with fancy romantic gestures. Nor are they apt to spend time worrying about their appearance in a superficial manner. If that special someone is willing to take them as they are, they will happily do the same in return. Otherwise, they'll probably keep on walking.
They're probably interested in finding a partner who will be equally committed to things like quality time and genuine communication. That way, they can focus on one another without all the bells and whistles that some people consider an essential part of a good relationship. When they find an individual who feels the way they do about these things, the relationship will be a truly special one.
You should also look for a Steady Mate when scouting out romance; that's the second most compatible type to your own.
Steady mates are the kind of romantic partners that others will want to lean on in times of distress. This is true because their logical minds allow them to remain cool-headed during a crisis. This quality can make them seem a bit heroic at times. And for that reason, mates who value their calm, rational nature will make a great match.
They need someone who won't expect them to be overly softhearted or to express their feelings all the time. Their mates should know that just because they don't always express their emotions, it doesn't mean that they don't care. On the contrary, they'll always value the quality of the connections between them and the people they care about. Because of this fact, it will be important for them to find a romantic partner who knows how to care about a relationship and put some effort into it. Once they find a person like that, they can live life to the fullest.
So now that you know the love personality types you're most compatible with, what about the ones that you're least similar to? Here's some information about the type that is your opposite.
Who isn't a good match for you?
The type opposite to yours is Prized Partner. They appreciate the finer things in life and tend to seek out others who share their refined tastes. High fashion, gourmet meals, luxurious getaways — these are the kinds of things that prized partners enjoy. If they can experience them with a worldly, stylish mate, it's all the better.
They are drawn to people who know how to take care of themselves and are hooked in socially. Whether they're out at a club or an exclusive restaurant, it's important to them to be part of the scene. However, they aren't just hedonists. On the contrary, they know that the good life comes at a cost. As a result, they've likely set goals that will help them live it. Because they have higher ambition than most people do, it will be best for them to find a partner who values their drive to succeed and can share in their dreams for the future. That way they can make it to the top together.
Now you have your guide to helping you spot a good mate. But once you find a relationship, you want to be able to hang onto it. That's where understanding your personality really comes into play. Read on for advice to keep your love going strong.
How Love Can Change You
Love can turn your world a little upside down, so it's not so surprising that being in a relationship may sometimes result in changes to your personality. Even psychologists agree that love can alter people's behavior and influence which personality attribute you display.
Part of the reason love can bring about this kind of transformation is that in a romantic relationship, people tend to let down their guard. It's the disarming aspect of close relationships that gets us to be our real selves — a complex mixture of the best and the worst that we each can be.
As a result, in love, certain aspects of personality usually hidden from view can come forth in ways that aren't always very positive. During stressful periods in a relationship, or even in good times, you may find yourself reverting to old negative patterns of behavior or expressing your least favorable traits. Dynamics from your childhood or experiences with past lovers can all come to the surface, so that suddenly you're dealing with a lot more than just what's in front of you.
The best way to combat this tendency is to take a step back whenever you feel yourself beginning to act out old emotions or behaving in a way that could be harmful to your relationship. By grounding yourself and making sure you are truly present, you can gain perspective on your situation. Ask yourself what you're thinking and feeling to see if it's an accurate reflection of what's happening in that moment. If you find yourself overreacting or reacting based on the past, you can make changes to behave in the way that feels best to you and most truly represents your best self.
Realize that attraction, an integral element of romantic love, can make your body react in physical ways to your thoughts and surroundings. In this way, attraction can have the effect of a stimulant or generate the same physical sensations that in other environments would be considered excitement, fear, or stress. When in a heightened state like that, it's much easier to act in ways that you later can reflect on and wonder, "What was I thinking?" So take heed of attraction's power.
In addition to these factors, given your love personality type, there are certain issues that are more likely to come up for you when you're in a romantic relationship.
As an idealistic romantic you have the potential complication of seeing your relationship as you want it to be, rather than how it really is. On the positive side, having ideals and dreams of what you want can help you increase the chances of creating a positive future. However, it can sometimes keep you from accepting a less-than-perfect relationship with another person.
As a result, you may sometimes project your fantasies of the perfect mate onto your real life partner without realizing it. This creates expectations that can be extremely difficult for your mate to live up to. Also, because of your dreamy nature, at times you may have a tendency to ignore the ways that your partner falls short of this image you've created. By idealizing your relationship this way, you can begin to feel that your partner is the answer to your problems. You may even feel that without them, your world simply cannot be complete. These kinds of beliefs simply are not true. You are complete and wonderful with or without your partner. Try to remember that everyone has good points and bad points and that no relationship is perfect — even yours. By staying focused on both sides of your relationship, you're more likely to retain your own belief in yourself and your value. This sense of security will make for a happier relationship all the way around.
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